She has been home for about 3 weeks now. Been faithfully taking her meds and seeking out help including AA. So far she is sober and seems to be stable. She tells me that the bipolar caused severe anxiety. She drank to self medicate even though the drinking made everything worse. Seems to fit in with some of the responses here. I was at the point of wanting out of the marriage at any cost, but she is begging me to stay. Says I am giving up now that she has found the proper treatment. Maybe she has, or maybe not. I just dont know. I have to soon decide if I am going ahead with the divorce or giving her another chance. Neither option will be fun.