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Sadly, an alcoholic will do whatever it takes to defend his addiction from anyone and everyone. As a result, in his mind nothing can be his fault, so he will blame and deflect and project all his failings onto others, professing that it is their fault.
We then feel the need to jump in and defend ourselves, which only keeps us engaged in the alcoholic's manipulation dance, and keeps us riding on that emotional roller coaster.
You won't get him to admit he's in the wrong, because in his mind he is not allowed to be wrong, he
has to be right.
That said, there's a very good chance he already
knows the answer, and realizes the hurt he is causing... But if you try sticking around and waiting for him to admit it, it's going to be a really long wait.