Thank you all for your replies and kind words. I think I have already mentioned that I picked up a copy of Codependent no more. I just did my first step tonight and it felt really good and a little bad at the same time. I told the ex that we will not be celebrating his one week of sobriety tomorrow and that he needs alot more than that before we start any celebrations. I also told him that I am focussing on me now and of course it was met with I dont want to be without you,I miss you,I want to grow old together,Im doing everythings I said I would..yada yada..more of him trying to hold me hostage and using guilt to keep me around. But all in all I am feeling pretty good and like a load is begining to be lifted. Thanks for your help,it has made a world of difference
