Isn't being alcohol free the main issue here? Regardless of the; why, how, where or way? I too am tired of the snide "my way or the highway" remarks, it is not necessary. On the one hand people say, do what works for you, but in the same post insist that you do it their way, even giving extended instructions on how to achieve what they have achieved. It is particularly disheartening when you go to a thread and find that some of these people have relapsed. What does that say about "their way?" I realize relapse is part of recovery, but please, don't push your beliefs until you have some time under your belt !!!