Ipnangel, that's one of the reasons I don't come in that much anymore, frankly. I'm just not equipped to handle the disagreements over AA vs non-AA approaches to quitting, for example, without getting too frustrated. There's a part of me that enjoys the argumentation (the drama, I guess - shocker). But it's not good to get wrapped up in it. I didn't quit drinking so that I could bicker with people on the correct approach to quitting every day. And when I started thinking about it, I also didn't quit drinking so that I could merely talk about it every day necessarily either (so why was I continuing to come into the site to do that?). So I just check in once in a while. For other people, if they can find a way to deal with the debates that ensue without becoming negative as a result (and without causing negativity for other people), then that's great for them. But everybody has got to do what is going to keep things on a good note.