Kassie2

Hi everyone!

It has been awhile again. I keep thinking I am done with things and have moved on but just encountered another step in the process of recovering from an A marriage.

While the marriage was a second one and lasted only 5 years - I discovered that the damage went beyond me - my daughter came home for a week between her job and starting school. She had pictures from the summer to show me what her job was like. While going through her album, we came across other pictures from events during the years of my marriage. It was that moment when I realized that I really wasn't there during those activities - I knew they were going on and she had pictures then but I wasn't able to sit with her and go through them at the time. I felt that I had missed out on a big part of her life because I was too busy taking care of an A.

So she spend the evening going through the pictures and telling me the stories to catch me up. I also learned that she had planned to move out during that time but was reminded that she would lose all that time with me and not know how our relationship would end up. So she stayed and now we are close. We are both grateful for how things turned out once I was able to move forward in my recovery.

I am writing this wondering how many others felt this way when living with an A and whether you would like to share how you have worked this out. I think it a hopeful outcome and newbies may need the encouragement that things can get better. It also reminds me of how focused on the A we can become and how that hurts others.

Thanks for listening.