Originally Posted by
Mad4Chaos 
Then he told me that he can't feel bad about stealing the ativan & muscle relaxers. Though he hasn't relapsed, he's struggling with staying off "roxys" & heroin. His sobriety from roxys & heroin is too important too him, & if he let's himself be down about the theft & being tossed out of the house, he'll be more likely to relapse.
The father in me thinks, "That arrogant, selfish sh!t. He'll be damned before he takes responsibility for this." But the recovering alcoholic in me (66 days) agrees that his sobriety is the most important thing.
Listen to that father inside you and do so with love. Your son owns his own recovery or not, just as you, do your own. He's just doing what addicts do.
He's still stealing and using drugs so it sounds like he's not done yet. No such thing as a lesser evil cause all roads lead to the same place.
It's kind of like a smoker switching to an ultra light cig or an alcoholic with a taste for the hard stuff switching to beer. Just smoke and mirrors.