I think bellakella's post was fantastic, I used to think if I didn't worry/fret about a problem then I wasn't showing enough care!!! I wish I had read those words years ago I still haven't come to grips with it.
Now is the time to work the steps and put into practice what you have learnt. The Serenity Prayer would be a good mantra to start with.
The best to you and your baby
CaiHong