Well, I can say for now - I won't be having another conversation about any of the tougher marital issues anytime soon. He may be 9 months sober, but he is not ready.
What I'd like to do is be very clear on what I value and expect in a marriage so when the time does come to have this talk again, I can be direct and concise. Last night I got too emotional and hurt and was fumbling with trying to describe my values.