lpnangel - It's so good you're talking about this. It helps take the sting out of it - maybe a little. I'm so sad that you're having this stress. Sorry for what your brother is facing, too.
I hope you'll continue to put yourself first and try not to feel guilty. It's very hard for me to detach myself from toxic situations, and I know just how you feel - but we must. There's no pleasing some people, & they will suck the life out of us if given the opportunity. Please be kind to yourself & keep us informed. Prayers going up for your family.