it is always hard if you are ina family and you are the responisble one. I learned during my recovery, yes they are your family and by nature you love them and want to help, however nobody says they have to be good to you or healthy to be around. I am really sorry for your brother, but if he can buy beer he can spent the money on food as well. No reason for you to jump n and help. If they want to recover they can find help. Take care of yourself. You come first. How are you helping them if you are not well off in the 1st place. You need to get well, then you can help, if they follow your rules.