I'm so sorry for your brother and all of your family problems. I too was always the helper for my brother and his addiction to alcohol but we come from a very dysfunctional and alcoholic family and I ended up in the same boat. I am sober now, have had a few relapses, am back on the wagon and plan to stay this way. I have to stay away from my family members who drink all of the time and as hard as it is, they need to do it for themselves. You need to focus on you! YOU YOU YOU!