Well said Mike!!
Al-anon is so much more available...look for that. And nothing takes the place of face to face.
I found myself in Alanon and it wasn't until much later that I realized that much of what was going on in my life was because of my childhood. Even then I did not "go there" because I needed time. I could not personally focus on that part until I worked on me as an adult.
So which ever order you choose depends on you. Today is here now...deciphering the past will always be there.
Hugs,
JT