Hi Grizz,
As long as the perspective you're coming to isn't "my AW isn't as bad as SOME"... because you know she will be, if nothing changes. Alcoholism is an elevator that goes down to hell, and only you can decide what floor you want to get off on.
Half the time I didn't know if my AXH really didn't remember calling me and the kids names in his drunkenness, or if he was so ashamed of his behavior he just didn't want to admit he remembered.
A year after divorcing my AXH, I'm still fighting to regain the eternal optimism I had when I married him. Don't let her drinking take that out of you, but don't be so optimistic you're stupid. This disease eats good people, drinkers and families alike, and spits out wrecks.