It's a tough place that you live in ~ I lived there for almost 3 yrs.
My now exah went to rehab and got clean & sober ~ it appeared that he was working a wonderful program of recovery.
At about 2 & 1/2 yrs sober ~ I started to notice little changes and a little before he celebrated 3 yrs sober - I knew he was in a full blown relapse. He continued to attend meetings and celebrate sobriety bdays.
It was very uncomfortable to me - because as my sponsor and I with the guidance from my HP decided - it was not my place to enlighten our family, friends and the rest of the world of his demise.
People will find out what they need to know when they need to know it ~
When I finally couldn't stay any longer and I left - most people thought he was still sober and blamed me for leaving - the truth was eventually revealed but I felt better knowing I had maintained by Grace, Poise and Dignity.
I believe you will feel the same - You know your truth ~ regardless if no one else on the Earth does!
You and Your HP believe you and that's all that matters!
PINK HUGS,
Rita