Gosh, I too missed this thread!
I am just sitting here shaking my head, what a waste of a life!
Yet, this is her choice, her destiny is out of your hands, sometimes the only answer is for us, ACOA's, is to let go and back out of the insanity....for our own well-being, we too, are entitled to a life, some peace and happiness.
I am very sorry, try to take care of you!