WTBH I agree! Not saying anything to my AF feels like I am sweeping it under the rug and therefore giving him the ability to think it is okay or minimize it. I did speak my mind in an email and I was to the point and very blunt. I did not say one word about him drinking, but only his behavior. Being scary and disrespectful is not okay drunk or not. The only thing I discussed as far as drinking was that I was hurt that he encouraged my AH (who is struggling and wanting long term sobriety) to drink and did it in front of my kids.
I would like to believe that my AH will give his heart and soul to his rehab program and I pray that he does. He may be at his bottom but as we all know only time tell. I am proud of him. It is a huge step.