On ultimatums ..... as an AA ..... the one time my (former) partner even hinted at quitting drinking, I said "I know what you want me to say and I'm not going to quit drinking." The subject was dropped. Within 1 1/2 years we were "divorced".
Originally Posted by
UpSiDeDoWn 
How do people decide if they will really be better off without their alcoholic spouse?
Only you know that but geez, it sounds like all he's "giving you" right now is debt and stress.