Anvil .. Yes, I know your totally right!
So .. obviously, in the positions we are in, it requires much work to extricate ourselves out of the horribly tangled web amassed throughout all of these unhealthy years.
We are "supposedly" the healthi(er) one of the couple. (The one that is NOT an alcoholic.) So, why am I finding it so hard to define .. or decide when the right time to do something is .. or what the right thing to do is ..??