Originally Posted by Alone22

Again thank you to all who have posted and offered their wisdom.

When I brought up in patient his response was I don't want to be away from the family and cost. It appears cost (if he stays in network) would not be an issue. I really do see his point in being away, and if it were me I would have a really hard time doing it. Reading and talking with a few people my one concern with in is the transition after. While I see that being in 24/7 is fantastic for removing them from temptation and giving them 100% focus on recovery, I also see the flip side of it which is life if full of temptations and having those during rehab does make it more real time dealing with it.

"That said, the success or failure of whatever path he chooses depends on his ability to bring and apply three things without reservation: honesty, openess, and willingness. If he brings those and holds nothing back, either option is sufficent - inpatient is just easier to keep at it and get the desired result. " This is so true and honestly where I am at with this is if he really wants to quit and wants to live his life sober he will be given the help he needs, in or out. If he is being honest and out patient is giving him time to drink/ too much temptation, then HE needs to step up and change it. Bottom line is if he wants to drink he is going to , during rehab or after. Doesn't it really come down to how bad he wants to be in recovery? If it is a half hearted attempt it really doesn't matter if it is in or out, it isn't going to change his behavior.

I should clarify the addiction specialist... she is a counselor not an MD and while I trust her opinion more than a PA, I don't think she has enough education to make "the" determination. I spoke with her again yesterday and told her about the out patient program at the facility the PA recommended and she actually liked it. Since the facility does do both she pointed out he could switch to in if needed. I think this is where the honestly on his part comes in. I was also thinking they may have him drug test too, which would keep him honest.

Ultimately it is not my choice it is his. I am here to support his choice to seek recovery, but will continue to focus on my own recovery too. Going to Al-anon and reading here on SR I think I fully understand that while rehab could be the answer to his problem, it very well might not be. While I am optimistic, it is with great caution that I am.