My alcoholic got mad as hell when he found out that I was going to al-anon meetings. He wasn't in recovery, and still isn't. Anyway, I hid it from him for months and then decided that I was going to tell him . He got really really angry with me, but I reminded him that I was attending those meetings for me and they had absolutely nothing to do with him....and that is the truth. The alcoholic is such a selfish person to think our world revolves around them. I have been away from him for a month and I'm still attending meetings...he can't figure out why since we're not together anymore, but that's his issue. I think you handled yourself just fine, but I wouldn't go out of my way to over explain that you're going to a meeting...a simple "I am going out" should suffice...if he presses tell him you have a meeting. He already knows what for. Lots of luck!