Hi,
Hope you are doing well, and taking care of you. My BF, recovering, sober 1 1/2 years, working a strong program still has moments where he becomes distant. I don't always understand him, but I take care of me.
Reading and posting here, Al-anon literature, reading CoDependent No More and meetings, a great therapist, and finally finally knowing that I will be ok no matter what are my lifelines. While he has worked on himself, I worked on me, and we both continue to do so.
I love him, I enjoy being with him, but I CAN live without him. Best gift I can give myself.
All I can offer is what has worked for me. I have been worth the work on this journey. So are you, so are we all.
Hugs.