The non problematic drinker & nonalcoholic don't understand.
This is why there is a stigma with my disease of alcoholism.
I have no experience (ha ha) to share. My family prefers to think of me as an untreated bipolar person.
They really think drinking is a choice. How often does hubby drink?
Maybe he has a problem (if you do) and doesn't think he does or doesn't want to admit it.
The AA book states, "Who wants to admit complete defeat?"