Originally Posted by
totoro 
My personal dilema was caring a great deal for my friend while resenting and being angry at the other coworker.
I am also struggling with this a bit, in addition to the lack of contact from my RA friend. I don't resent my coworkers or my boss, but I am learning that they felt so let down and disappointed by my friend's behavior, that they are just coping without him and making lists of all his infractions prior to the incident when he went AWOL (there are more than I realized). They don't seem in any rush to help him return to work, even in the limited role he was promised. I feel like I may be his only ally left there, and that's also somewhat frustrating because I don't know if he realizes this.
And thanks for the insight on Al-Anon from your perspective. I don't have any alcoholism in my immediate family either, so I have not had any experience with A's or recovery. And I am also a problem-solver. It sounds like it would be helpful for me to seek out a meeting, as well.