well he isn't in recovery but you are so I wouldn't bother talking to him about what happened. I am not interested in what people remember or not about when they are drunk. Congratulations for leaving him in the shower - and yes I would have turned off the water too- it is hard but it is these little steps that count. When I did these little steps in the beginning, I thought it was to manipulate the alcoholic. By not making it all better for him, he would have to face reality. But in the end the spiritual awakening happened to me in that I truly understand that his life is not my responsibility.