Originally Posted by
BobbyJ 
And the biggest guilt of all: I never went to Alanon while he was in rehab, so when he came home. I didnt give him the support he probably needed from me.
Bobby,
That's really sad news about your ex, and I can empathize - my mother never got sober despite the interventions, alanon, doctors advice, health scares, ad nauseum. The hardest part of my sobriety (I have been sober since Dec 2009) has been to understand and accept my limitations, especially how my brain percieves and interprets the goings on in the world around me. I never had control over my own drinking , much less my mothers.
The guilt you feel is a red herring that keeps you from acceptance and peace with what is. I assume you understand that your ex is powerless over alcohol - the next time you feel a shadow of guilt coming on, think about that... if he is powerless over his addiction, how on Gods green earth could you have any control or culpability for his continuing to drink?
Wishing you peace & love,
Edd