Hi Lonely. My soon to be ex alcoholic husband was also high functioning and is very intelligent as well. I now believe there is no such thing as a functioning alcoholic- I think they function as well as any other alcoholic - until they dont. It is all part of the progression of the disease and it always gets worse. I was told by the therapist in the treatment facility that addicts with a sense of entitlement who are very intelligent and have had little to no consequences can be difficult to treat.
You may be surprised at what other people know or suspect. Keep reading keep learning and know you deserve a husband who tells the truth, doesnt text other women and doesnt throw your past mistakes in your face. You deserve to be happy. I wish you all the best and am glad you are here because you will learn alot