Sending lots of hugs, BobbyJ. I really had to laugh at his "it's a secret" job. Kinda like the whole spy thing: I could tell ya, but then.... Sorry, I know the situation wasn't funny, wasn't fun. I get the same feeling when I know XAAH is bound to show up and sometimes when I just think he MIGHT.
I have to agree with Eddie and the others - you did not fall for his quacking. The panic-response kicked in at the threat of him showing up, yes - mine would have too, but you didn't fall for the quacking.
Glad that you were able to go for a drive and then talk with his brother to clear up picture.