First of all, have you considered Al-Anon? Getting a sponsor? It's way less expensive that a professional therapist.
Secondly, I am in the camp of medications for a purpose and am not afraid to admit I've been on mild anti-depressants since last fall. Mild being the key word...not anything heavy as what I was experiencing was definitely situational depression. I was beyond the slump and truly in the dumps...helped to pick me up and shake the fog of fof me so I could proceed forward with putting my life back together. Talk with your healthcare provider or a primary care provider.
Lastly, I can't recommend reading highly enough. Go to the library self-help section and start reading. It is the cheapest therapy available, and lots of good books out there to help you put your life into a different perspective. Because it isn't just a physical issue, its an emotional and spiritual issue.
Hang in there, bruingirl. It will get better!