Donald
I have followed your posts and know you mean well, but something you must understand about this side of recovery....it is not about doing
anything to change them...lord knows that by the time we got here we had tried everything, begging, crying, anger, spying, manipulation, controlling, and praying our hearts out...all to no avail, because as our Step 1 tells us..."We are Powerless over the addict".
We learn to look after ourselves and find what WE need to make us happy. We let go of them, their recovery and their addiction, and learn to find our own happiness and peace. We learn that nobody else holds the key to our happiness, that we have held that key all along, and now we learn how to use it.
My A is still drinking nothing new there... He even gave me permission to drink if I wanted to!! LOL
She chooses to give herself permission to move on. I applaud her and pray for both of them
Hugs
Ann