Is your XAH or STBXAH allowed to drink when he has kids?
We haven't finalized our divorce yet but have been trying to settle in on a visitation schedule.
In the short term, STBXAH has agreed to not having my son sleepover just yet. My point was, I couldn't leave the house with you and him while you still lived here, what makes you think I'll leave him alone with you (drunk) under a different roof?
So, to me, the goal is short visits where my STBXAH refrains from drinking alcohol. The first visit, he did just that. Today, when I brought up the topic again, he blew up! "You chased me out of the house, I came here in a good mood, and all you want to do is talk about drinking?"
My reply - your drinking got you out of the house and yes, it's important to us that you not drink during your visits.
He ranted on and on. I think he half-hearted agreed somewhere in there.
Curious what others have done and whether not drinking is spelled out in any formal paperwork.
Our son is a teenager and doesn't need this bad example of drinking everywhere and anywhere.
Thanks.