Giving up? hmmmmm thats a kinda depressing name. Figures that would be the type of advise offered.
Why cant you do all those things and stay married. To achieve change in someone else we often must change ourselves first. Who is enabling h to be so manipulative? Whats holding you back from going joining a camping or ski club? Whats stopping you from going on vacations and traveling? You are and nobody else. Perhaps by doing these things on your own he may wake the hell up and get a little scared that you are moving on with him. He might even become so curious at seeing the energy and excitement exuding from you by living your dream that he may want to join in.
Check out
www.saveourmarraige.org its worth a shot before throwing in the towel. It boast a 75% success rate. (marraige councilling on its own = 3%)
If my marraige is eventually saved it will be by no small part this program. Its a worldwide orginization called Retrouvaille. If you are gonna throw in the towel your gonna want to have the peace of mind that you did EVERYTHING you could. Love is a decision - feelings are just that - they come and go.