I am learning that I don't trust myself (and my intuition, stomach etc), around others.
I always go for what I am told and not what I feel. It is getting better, but right at the moment I am a little nervous about what I am "attracted" to. Though my exAH got me into my recovery from this portion of my life it is not only with him that I get myself into trouble and override my feelings. I do that with friends, have done it with my FOO a long time etc.
I really appreciate Cryanoak's post about if what someone says is matching with what someone is doing. That was part of my struggle...especially with my ex.
I am not trying to say everyone is trustworthy. However if I don't trust myself I am in a lot of hurt for trusting someone else.
This is where a lot of my growth is stemming from right now.
To quote Madea (I have this on a white board on my fridge right now): "I would rather be by myself in the corner with a goldfish and a puppy and be happy." For me right now that is enough.