Acceptance...that was so hard for me. Took a long time to wrap my head around it and I practice it daily. But I have to say you have strong boundaries and you should be very proud of yourself for seeing reality as it is BEFORE going any further in the relationship. I didn't. My kids got hurt. That sucks.
So...you have my utmost respect today for your wise and sound decisions in regards to handling your reality clearly and honestly, regardless of how you "feel" about it inside. That's awesome! Thanks for sharing.