skipper--great post. It really helped me to read literature on ACOA to see how things affect my kids. I personally believe the alcholic (addict etc.) AND the codependent and /or spouse of the alcholic would do well to learn about these effects. As far as the codependent goes, they may see themselves in the pages. I did--the dysfunction in my family was the same as a child being raised by an alcoholic. Thus, I am an Adult Child, even though I was not aware there may have been any addiction in our home until recently. I brought the issues to adulthood regardless.