Originally Posted by
vtsister 
Yes, he's used to having somebody in the family rescue him from whatever bind he gets himself into.
I think it's best not to bail him out, but keep in mind there is a very good chance he may still not see the consequences of his actions or stop blaming all of you anytime soon. My STBXAH got a DUI about four years ago, back when I didn't realize he was an alcoholic. He called us crying from jail and we went and got him immediately. I am sure that if we had left him there to teach him it wouldn't have made a difference, he would have just blamed all of us as he blames us for EVERYTHING he does. Just trying to keep your expectations realistic that he may not learn from this right away, if ever. I think you are doing the right thing though, it's his only chance.