(((hugs))) to you for making this decision now, before it has a chance to cause a lot more hurt. I know I hate what my kids are exposed to when AH drinks, and I'm only now starting to be able to set boundaries when he's being verbally abusive. The driving thoughts I try to keep in my mind whenever he gets like that is, "Is this what I want my son to think is an acceptable way to treat his wife?" and, "Do I want my daughter to settle for this?" The strength has been in realizing that dysfunction is multi-generational, and I really want to break the cycle for my kids.