Originally Posted by
hwsm 
2) it changes his personality. He's not the same man that I fell in love with. He's not mean or abusive. He has always been very good to me and my son. I can't put my finger on it but I know it bothered me.
Maybe he had not been mean or abusive - yet.
Alcohol use goes hand in hand with violence.
I believe people without unresolved internal issues don't have a change in personality, even if they are very drunk. Like me, for instance, not that I get drunk these days but I would never insult anyone regardless of how sober or drunk I am. Its just not me.
I also believe it is not that alcohol changes people but in the case of an alcoholic, alcohol makes the person show their true hurting selves, they no longer have a mask to lure others and hide what they don't want others to see about themselves.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...out-abuse.html