I find this discussion very interesting.
My only contribution is that the more I have loved myself the more full my own cup is to give love to others. I am only just figuring that out and previously thought I needed to drain myself to give to others. I think this gives me a better shot at the word love in general.
I also want to say that I think I did not realize there were other options/ways etc to love before getting into my own recovery. I truly thought all the care taking (care taking is not bad...it is when you sacrifice yourself for it), codie stuff I did was love. I am so glad that I was so wrong.