I love my AH and I will always love him and I believe that is unconditional. As for living with him and continuing our marriage I am not able to do that.
What I think it comes down to is that is too difficult for me to be with someone that doesn't love me unconditionally. Life is too precious to not be with a person who is looking out for your best interest as well as their own.
I don't think my AH can do that. Maybe that is part of his disease, I don't know. After all, my AH is probably not looking out for his own best interest if he is too consumed with looking out for when he can get a drink.
It has taken me a long time to realize that I still do love my AH. Facing my own issues and stopping my reactions to the alcoholism has led me to accept I can love my AH and not be responsible for him.