Good for you for deciding to not mother him anymore! If you're anything like me... you're going to start to realize just how many things you did for him that he can and should be doing for himself! Good god did I over-protect my AH... MY disease was cunning and baffling. It was shocking to me just how hard it was to pull my claws (ie. my need to control and manage him!) out of his life!
When you seperate your life/responsibilities from what should be his... and you get back to living YOUR life and taking care of you... happiness creeps in. No matter what he chooses to do or not do. His choices and consequences... are HIS - you will no longer be enmeshed in that! That's good news!
The best gift that I've received when I released myself from mothering my AH??!?! FREE TIME! LOTS OF IT! All sorts of time to spend on ME and what I WANT! Oooh!! That's the good stuff right there!
So... good for you! Today is a new day... with lots of hope for you and your happiness!