I'm sorry to worry everyone. He is no longer violent at all. Believe me, at the first sign of violence, I am gone this time. I stayed the last time because he was suicidal and well, my father was a Vietnam vet and had PTSD. He killed himself in 1998. I've never gotten over it. I felt I owed my H something. I've since learned better and I will NOT subject myself to that again EVER.
There are no local Al-Anon meetings in my area, that is why they are not available to me.
He is retired from the military. I am in the process of finding my own counselor, someone that knows PTSD, alcohol addiction and anger.