Thanks, dollydo. I have realized that he is an alcoholic AND he seems to have severe commitment issues. So even though he is sober, he is still not capable of being there for anyone. He was supposed to move in with me in a few weeks, told my kids he was moving in, and then...he just booked it. Since I think he does have commitment issues, I guess the closer he got to moving in with me, the worse his anxiety got. I really thought that by his getting sober, our relationship would go much better. But now I see that his relationship patterns are another issue altogether.
My friends warn me that he will be back. I have to prepare myself mentally to be strong, because I can't go through this again. I feel totally drained.