Hi M
I m in the same boat as you. This dang legacy we were given stinks. I am also having a rough time with family dysfunction & it's really hitting home. It has really affected my adult children & I can't fix it for them.
I am reading ACOA big red book. Although it's a relief to finally put some definition to my
madness, it's like waking on cracked ice at times.
When I read your post, my heart hurts for you, your family and mine.
However, it's a comfort in some way to know I'm not alone. I hope you find some sort of comfort & peace also.
Huggs