Thanks for this reality check.
I am working on letting go...of my AH. It helps to think that the man I love is dead and gone. Not hoping for a miracle to occur every time I see him. This means going NC. I have been able to (1 week 6 days so far..not the longest we have gone NC but I feel so much more determined to stay that way now-for my own good) but still think about him WAY TOO MUCH.
Letting go of things. I need to purge my house of things I have held onto for years. I seem to develop emotional attachments to many things. Its not healthy.
Letting Go of anxiety when I don't know what a loved one is doing or thinking. It's none of my business! They will let me know when they want me to know.
Letting Go of excuses for why I can't or shouldn't do things. It helps if I just keep moving. Whatever gets done gets done. Better than spending hours trying to plan what to do.