That sounds so maddeningly frustrating! My A(BF) met me on Tuesday morning with 'What is wrong with you?' after he essentially said we were over on Sunday afternoon. I deleted all the other phone calls from Tuesday, but one from last night : 'I still don't know what your problem is, but I suppose you have your reasons.'
And he is not a vicious abuser - just a regular confused scared jerk. I'm practicing withdrawing from the Drama, without explanation. I figure the only time I need to talk to him now is to let him know when I'll need the car (I moved out almost 3 months ago). After I talk to a therapist, I might be able to talk to him. But not if I'm met with 'What is wrong with you?!'
You are a valuable person in your own right - and you can choose how to interact with someone who talks to you like he does. If he were some guy on the bus, what would you do? Get off the bus, girl!
- Sylvie