Originally Posted by
vj5386 
His lack of "growing up" and get his life together so that he can get OUT, he is going to destroy my marriage and everyone's chance for a relationship.
What /when will he get it and grow up?
vj,
Actually, it's the other way around. He needs to get out so he can grow up and get his life together.
Although we love our kids, they truly can destroy us and our lives if we allow it.
I, too, found SR when I didn't have anywhere else to turn. The wonderful people here helped me to save my marriage and my sanity. They led me to Al-Anon and CoDa and a relationship with a Higher Power I had forgotten existed.
My favorite saying from SR and possibly the one that has helped me the most is:
Let go or be dragged...
Sending you love and hugs from another mom,
Hunny