Originally Posted by
dancingnow 
AAARGH, I can't take this and yet in the back of mind I keep second guessing myself, thinking I should just let this go cause when I don't I am interfering with his d*mn recovery.
How about it's interfering with
your recovery, never mind his.
He's not going to co-parent the way you want him to. You can't control what he does, and getting frustrated over it changes nothing other than taking you away from your own recovery.
You can control what you do in your parenting. You can continue to be consistent with your kids regardless of what he does.
Kids
need stability and consistency.
Make any sense?