Hey ZRX,
First, sorry you are going thru that craziness.
Defying a A's odds will drive ya crazy. My AW has been sober the last 6 weeks, with the last 2 years being relapse after relapse, jail stay after jail stay. So I'm not holding my breath. On the other hand and I won't lie is that I hope she can do it this time,(stupid ace me). But I have no control of the out come.
She's about to enter a 6 month sober house program this week. So she won't be around for awhile. I see this as the the last chance for her and us.
For my self, the odds that we are done is 100% if the drinking continues. The Crazy Train has to end some time. She knows it this time and the children S18 and D15 are in full support of this decision.
Take Care Brother,