It "clicked" for me when: I stopped fighting. I stopped trying to not drink. I made a decision and a commitment to go through with the process of working all of AA's twelve steps. I asked for help, guidance, direction. I followed directions exactly as given -- whether I wanted to, whether I liked doing what was being asked of me, whether I thought these things would work, whether it made sense of me. No argument. No debate. No objections. No challenge. I completely gave myself to the work and submitted myself to the process (i.e., thoroughly followed, searching and fearless, with rigorous honesty, let go absolutely, completely abandon, you get the idea). I took the actions others have taken for success. At some point I was no longer working the steps but instead the steps were working me. This thing works -- it really does. Susan